Ukwinkampani elungileyo ukuba ulixhoba lempatho gadalala ekhaya. Inani elikhulu labantu lifumana impatho gadalala ekhaya minyaka le, kwaye uninzi lwabo lulwela ukuchacha. Oku kunokuba ngumjikelo oyingxaki; nangona kunjalo, kunye neempahla ezifanelekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukoyisa iindleko ezikufutshane nekhaya kwaye wenze kwakhona ubomi bakho. Iingxwelerha ezininzi ziye zangena kwiinkqubo zokuchacha ukuze kuthomalaliswe iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zemiba yoxinzelelo lwasemva koloyiko kunye nolunye ukwenzakala okulindileyo ngenxa yokuphathwa gadalala.
Ngokuqondwa ngcono kweendlela ezahlukeneyo zokujongana nokuziphatha kakubi ekhaya, amaxhoba kunye neentsapho zabo banokukhuthaza ilungiselelo elibanzi ngakumbi elihlangabezana neemfuno zabo ezizodwa ukukhawulezisa inkqubo yokulungisa.
Ngelixa ingekho enye indlela “elungileyo” yokuphinda ubuyele kwisimilo esindlongondlongo ekhaya, amacandelo ambalwa aqhelekileyo ahlala ekhunjulwa ngezicwangciso ezineziqhamo. Ezi ziquka:
Uthungelwano olunabileyo noluxhasayo ngokwasemoyeni lothando nokuqonda.
Abantu kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla banokuchaphazela kakhulu impumelelo yakho enkulu xa ubuyela ekuziphatheni kakubi ekhaya; Kubalulekile ukuba uzibiyele ngabantu abazinzileyo nabanokuqonda.
Ukusuka ekuthuthuzeleni ngamaxesha obunzima ukuya ekuboneleleni ngempahla yenkxaso, abantu kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla banokugcina ingqikelelo yempatho-gadalala iphantsi kolawulo kwaye bakuncede ube nembono yokuzithemba ngakumbi malunga noko kulindelweyo. Oku kunokubandakanya uncedo olukhululekile oluvela kwabathandekayo okanye uncedo lwengcali oluvela kwingcali okanye isikhokelo.
Unyango lolungiso ukulungisa umonakalo omkhulu.
Mhlawumbi inyathelo eliphambili elibhekiselele ekuziphatheni kakubi ekuchacheni ikhaya kukukhangela unyango lokujongana nokwenzakala okumandundu okugqityiweyo. Oku kunokubandakanya ukudibana nengcali rhoqo ukuze kuxoxwe ngokudibana kwakho okanye ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiintlanganiso zonyango kunye namaxhoba awohlukeneyo. Njengomthetho, ukuxoxa ngento eyenzekileyo kunokunceda ekunciphiseni ukubanjwa kweenkumbulo zakho.
Ujonge kuyo nayiphi na imiba yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi. Uninzi lwabasindileyo ekuziphatheni ndlongondlongo ekhaya baya kumayeza okanye utywala ukuze baqhelane nokwandiswa. Ukuba ekugqibeleni ubandakanya izinto njengendlela yokuphelisa intlungu, ukukhangela uncedo kubalulekile. Ii-asethi ezininzi ziyafikeleleka kwabo balwa nobukhoboka, kwaye ukufuna unyango kunokubaluleka ekuchacheni kwakho.
Ujongene nempilo yakho yokwenyani. Xa ubuyela ekuziphatheni kakubi ekhaya, kubalulekile ukujongana nempilo yakho yokwenyani. Oku kuthetha ukwenza umthambo rhoqo, ukutya ngendlela efanelekileyo, nokuphumla ngokwaneleyo. Ukujongana nomzimba wakho kunokuncedisa ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo oluzivayo kunye nokuchacha kwangaphambili.
Ujongene nokwakha ukuzithemba kunye novelwano. Ukuziphatha okuphantsi yenye yezona mpembelelo zixhaphakileyo zokuziphatha gadalala ekhaya. Iingxwelerha zihlala ziziva ngathi akonelanga okanye zifanelwe yimpatho-mbi.
Kubalulekile ukujongana nokwakha ukuzithemba kunye novelwano njengenxalenye yomjikelo wokuchacha.
Oku kunokubandakanya ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimithambo ekuncedayo ube nembono entle ngawe, umzekelo, ukungena ngaphakathi okanye ukufunda. Okanye kwelinye icala, kunokuquka ukuyiqonda ngakumbi indlela oncokola ngayo nawe kunye novelwano.
Yayiphuma kwikhaya apho impatho-mbi yenzeke khona. Kwabanye abantu, kunokwenzeka ukuba, eyona ntshukumo iphambili yokuphiliswa kukuphuma endlwini apho impatho-mbi yenzeke khona. Ukuhambahamba kumagumbi afanayo kunokubangela iinkumbulo kunye neemvakalelo zentlungu. Oku ngokungathandabuzekiyo kunokunciphisa isantya sokubuyisela.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ukufudukela kwelinye ikhaya kunokukunceda ngokuqala ngokutsha kunye nokuqalisa inkqubo yokulungisa. Oku kuya kuthintela iinkumbulo ezinganqwenelekiyo kwaye kukuncede uzive ulawula ubomi bakho kunokuba ubuhlala kwikhaya apho impatho-mbi yenzeke khona.
Ulandelela omnye umdla okanye umsebenzi wokuzonwabisa. Enye yeendlela ezivuthuza ingqondo zokuthintela ukucinga kunye neemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo kukuzintywilisela kwinto onomdla ngayo. Ukufumana enye inzala yecala okanye intshukumo oyithandayo inokuthatha ingqondo yakho kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ikunike into onokuyilindela. Inokukunceda ukuba udibane nabantu abatsha kwaye wenze inethiwekhi yokuxhasa ngokweemvakalelo yabantu abafanayo.
Ngokomzekelo, cinga ukuthatha iklasi okanye ukujoyina iqela lezobugcisa elikufutshane ukuba uyawuxabisa umzobo. Amaxesha apho sihlala sijikeleza singenzi nto, iinkumbulo zifumana ithuba lokuchwechwa kwaye lilawule. Ngokuhlala uchitha amava akho ngezinto ozixabisayo, unokukugcina oku kungenzeki.
Usebenza ibali lakho.
Enye yezona zinto ziluncedo onokuthi uzenze kukusebenzisa iakhawunti yakho. Oku kufanele ukuba kwenzeke kwidayari, okanye ungabhala incwadi malunga nokudibana kwakho. Ukubhala ibali lakho phantsi kunokukunceda ekuqondeni okwenzekayo kwaye kukunceda ubone ukuphucuka okwenzileyo ekuchacheni kwakho. Inokuba yindlela yokudlulisela iiakhawunti zakho kwabanye abanokusebenzisa umyalezo okhuthazayo. Oku kusenokungabi lolona khetho lufanelekileyo kubantu abathile, njengoko kusenokuba kuhle ukukhumbula ukwenzakala. Kwabanye abantu, idla ngokuba ngamava achacha ngendlela emangalisayo anceda kwizigqibo ezikhuthazayo.
Ukuququmbela
Ukuziphatha ngononophelo nangovelwano kubalulekile . Uziphatha ngobubele nangovelwano. Oku kuthetha ukuba nobubele kuwe, ngokwengqondo nangokokwenyani. Kuthetha ukuzivumela ukuba ulungise kwaye ungalindeli lukhulu kuwe. Kuthetha ukuba nomonde nokuqonda ukuba ikhondo lokuchacha linokuba lide kwaye libe yingxaki. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphezu kwako konke, kuthetha ukuqonda ukuba uyawufanele umsebenzi. Kuya kukunceda ukuba wonwabile kwaye uqinile, kwaye unelungelo lokuqhubeka nobomi bemihla ngemihla obukhululekileyo ebubini.
Ukuba udibana nokuziphatha okundlongondlongo ekhaya, ukuba akuyongxaki kakhulu, fumana inkxaso yamagqwetha osapho lwakwaTulsa ngokukhawuleza. Zininzi ii-asethi ezifikelelekayo kubantu abenzakeleyo kunye neentsapho zabo. Ngokwembono esemthethweni, ungafumana isicelo esisikelwe umda, uxwebhu lokugada abantwana bakho, kwaye uphonononge iseti ebanzi yemithetho ngoncedo lwegqwetha elilawula usapho. Qhagamshelana negqwetha namhlanje ukuba ulungele ukudlulisela imeko ecinezelayo kwaye uqale indlela yakho eya kwindawo ekhuselekileyo nekhuselekileyo.
