If you’re in a relationship, then you know and understand that you need to put in effort in order to make things work between you two. As they say, having a happy partner means you and the relationship will be happy as a consequence, too. Being in a relationship means you give and you take. You can’t expect your girlfriend or wife to just do all the giving and the caring.
If you want to make her happy, here are 5 things you can do. It doesn’t have to be extravagant; you can make your partner happy with just the little things, too.
1. Lend a Listening Ear
“Men don’t listen” is a cliche for a reason, but maybe it’s time you start practicing the opposite. It’s time to break away from this stereotype and actually listen to your partner. You can start simply by asking her about her day or how she’s feeling. Then, all you have to do is—literally—listen to her response, whether she’s groaning about what a difficult day she’s had or if she’s excitedly telling you good news. It’s okay to remain silent sometimes, and this could even make all the difference.
Communication truly plays a massive part in any relationship. In fact, communication could make or break things for you and your partner. By being a good listener, you’re also practicing proper communication. This can still come in handy whether or not you’re in an argument.
Here are some tips you can practice if you want to be better at listening to your partner and showing you care in this way:
- Pay attention to her while she’s talking to you, or better yet, look directly into her eyes to show you’re giving her your full attention.
- Don’t immediately assume that you know what she’s feeling or talking about.
- Try to understand where she’s coming from by looking at things from her perspective.
- Give small acknowledgments that you’re still paying attention to her by either nodding your head or saying “uh-huh.”
As you can see, sitting back and listening isn’t that easy to do. Give this small period of time to your girl where she can be in the spotlight, and it can mean the world to her.
2. Do the Chores, Too
If you live with your significant other, it goes without saying that you need to do your fair share of household chores. It’s rather unfair to expect women to carry all the burden that comes with housework, and it can leave her feeling like she’s being taken for granted. Take a moment out of your day to a little bit of housework, or you could ask your partner what you could do to help tidy up your house.
Time-management expert, Laura Vanderkam, has a better idea. She mentions a strategy during the “Best of Both Worlds” podcast, where you and your girlfriend write down all the household responsibilities that need taking care of. Then, both of you discuss which chores you enjoy and don’t enjoy doing. You can swap responsibilities or meet in the middle somehow, but doing this simple thing ensures that both of you are contributing to the housework, and your girlfriend or wife won’t feel too stressed out.
Doing the chores together could even result in good things for your relationship. In fact, Daily Mail reports that couples who do household chores together are much happier and even fight less. Rest assured that doing your part around the house can result in a much happier partner.
3. Support Her
Even though you’re in a committed and loving relationship, this doesn’t mean you and your partner become one person. This wouldn’t be a healthy relationship. You need to live your own life, while your girlfriend lives hers. With that said, you need to support and cheer on your partner with whatever she’s trying to do or achieve. In other words, you should be the number one person supporting her.
There are some relationships where couples put each other down—unintentionally or not—and discouraging the other person from pursuing their goals. This leads to a relationship that’s full of bitterness and resentment. To ensure your relationship and your partner remain happy, you need to be encouraging and supportive.
4. Get Along With Her Friends
It’s important that you make an effort in getting along well with her friends, especially if you’ve been together long-term. You don’t have to fully like them or merge yourself into their group if you don’t want to, but if you happen to have some small grievances with her best friends, then you should definitely make an effort to resolve the issue for the sake of your beloved.
It’s normal that one or two of your girlfriend’s close friends won’t like you, but don’t take this to heart They’re just looking out for her and don’t want her to get hurt. You can even prove to them that you’re not the bad guy they think you are.
5. Be Spontaneous
Don’t let routine and predictability make your relationship bland. Be spontaneous every once in a while and surprise your girl by planning a weekend getaway or booking a spa date. It doesn’t have to be excessive or extravagant; you can even just head out to the beach together or go on a road trip. No matter the size, surprises will always put a smile on your partner’s face. It shows her that you were thinking about her and wanted to do something nice. It won’t go unappreciated.
These are only some of the things you could do to make your girl happy. You don’t need to do anything fancy—you can start with these 5 tips and you’ll see just how much it can make your partner’s day.